I am going to take a break from posting wallpaper quality pictures to post about the Kamasutra. The Kamasutra is a part of Sanscrit literature officially called "Vatsyayana Kama Sutra." It is not only a list of sexual positions. It is more of a guide to deeper relationships involving the whole body and soul for the lovers in order to reach full unity. The book includes such subjects as how to find a wife, how to be a wife, third party involvements, health, tonics, and many other relationship topics. So, it is not just about sex. Therefore, the Kamasutra is a philosophy or way of life more than just actions. Since I am not an expert in the Kamasutra philosophy, I will let it to other to delve into that part of the topic.
Kama is about achieving ecstasy through all senses. Feeling, tasting, listening, smelling, and seeing are all involved. There are 9 "secrets" or principals to recognize.
1st Secret: The Kamasutra is often thought of as a guide to advanced sex. It is actually written for beginners. Even so, especially for people in the West, it can be used by anyone to learn about enhancing the pleasure of sexual encounters and deepening a relationship between couples. The first secret is the secret of foreplay. Resist penetration. Take it slow. Be gentle; a light touch is very erotic.
2nd Secret: Each time we encounter our partner, we must come to each other as if we are strangers. Even if the relationship is an old one, we should come together with an attitude of discovering each other anew. As desire grows, we should come together slowly and gently. The man stroking the woman's clitoris with his penis without entry, kissing slowly down the entire length of the body, kissing and sucking on toes, massaging her breasts... The 2nd secret is the secret on freshness, newness, and discovery.
3rd Secret: Accepting the full range of human emotions is important. Playing, laughing, learning to be free with each other. Even using feather, whips, slapping, and other play will help. The woman can be in control during this phase. Play acting is fun! The women trying to get away or the man holding to woman so that she cannot, are also fun. You really do need to have a safe word so that she or he can really know when things have gone too far. Saying "NO" does mean "NO". The 3rd secret is to learn that sex is a for exploring ways to have fun together. This does include fellatio, cunnilingus, and coitus. Some of the easier positions and most relaxed positions are better at in this phase.
4th Secret: We might think it cannot get better than this. This is false. The 4th secret is to keep on experimenting seeking new ways to pleasures our partner. This involves flowing from one posture into another and experimenting with slight changes in positions... even if they are not in any book. Changing just slightly in position can enhance pleasure. The 4th secret is to flow from one thing to another. Finding new ways to transition is a challenge at times but in many other cases the flow is natural.
From here on, the secrets can only be experienced by people in a long term relationship and not between strangers because these involve more than just physical intimacy. They require a desire for a deeper relationship with our partner.
5th Secret: Lust is good! It gives expression to our animal needs. The relationship with our partner needs to be shame free. Break personal and communal taboos. The 5th secret is to learn how to be free with each other. Full love means full acceptance with nothing hidden. The sexual positions that are the most open and make us the most vulnerable are best during this phase.
6th Secret: Learn the art of surprise. Move into unexpected positions. Improvise. This is where exotic positions can be used but not necessary. An example of this is to act like you are going to kiss the breasts but instead you move up to the lips... or down to the clitoris. Another example is rolling. Rolling over from the missionary position to the inverse missionary position (or the other way around) if not expected will surprise and please your partner. The 6th secret is to do the unexpected.
7th Secret: Realize that the real blissful unity is not physical. We do this by becoming so close to our partner what we feel like climbing into her or taking all him all in. In so doing, we feel the great desire to be one with our partner. The man wants to climb into the woman and the woman wants to take in all of the man. There is a desperate need for unity. Only after achieving this level of desire can we learn that we can never be fully one just be physical proximity. The 7th secret is that oneness primarily means oneness in spirit and mind.
8th Secret: This secret is to learn to worship your partner's body. Learning to see each other's bodies as sacred, a gift, and beautiful is vital for a deep relationship. Even if in the eyes of the world, your partner's body would not be said to be beautiful, your eyes say differently. You love your partner regardless of physical limitations or deformities.
9th Secret: This secret tries to answer the eternal question of "who am I?" At this stage, the act of sex is not even needed to have orgasms. It is a form of meditation. Although we may not even be touching, we know we are one. When there is copulation, the postures have every little movement, if any. We realize that there is no Me or You, there is only One. This is one of the hardest phases to achieve fully. Therefore, it is a lifetime endeavor.
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